Anthony Falzarano – the founder of Parents and Friends of ‘Ex-Gays’ (PFOX) – was a leading “ex-gay” spokesperson in the late 90′s. His media-friendly story was quite unique, in that he claims he was Roy Cohn’s rent boy and partied each night like it was 1999.
Falzarano’s entry into the ex-gay scene in the early 80′s has always been a little murky. In one version of his tale, God told Falzarano to go straight before the AIDS crises hit. In another version, after many of his friends had passed away, God told him to become ex-gay. In yet a third version, one of his sexual conquests felt guilty after their encounter and introduced him to Christ. Obviously, these colorful versions are contradictions and they can’t all be true.
If there is one thing about Falzarano – he is not opposed to telling a good story, the facts be damned. So, his fictional book, “Such Were Some of You: One Man’s Walk Out of the Gay Lifestyle,” is sure to be entertaining and certainly much better than Exodus’ Alan Chambers depressingly trite tome, “God’s Grace and the Homosexual Next Door.”
Falzarano holds to the empty and unsupported belief that homosexuality is caused by a young person being molested – and he pulls bogus figures out of thin air to bolster his case. Indeed, he is known to invent new percentages on the number of gay people molested from one interview to the next. The man has no scruples and honesty is just an inconvenience in his bizarre universe.
He is also a proponent of spiritual warfare, once telling CBS News, “AIDS comes from the devil, directly from Satan. He uses homosexuals as pawns and then he kills them.” Another time, he called hate crime victim Matthew Shepard a “predator to heterosexual men.”
Falzarano is now back after he was exiled by the religious right in 2000. They shunned him after he finally said something true – that the Religious Right uses ex-gays for fund raising, but actually gives the ministries scraps to do their work. I have said many times that this is because Focus on the Family and other groups know that ex-gay ministries are pure garbage and don’t want to throw good money – they could otherwise spend at the mall – down the ex-gay rat hole.
After his banishment, Falzarano tried to get things together on his own by forming a new ministry – but he was accused by Catholic University of misrepresenting himself at a conference he held there. After this debacle, Fralzarano moved from Virgina to West Palm Beach and disappeared from the ex-gay scene. His new book marks his reemergence into the fray. No doubt we will be hearing more from the irrepressible Falzarano in the coming weeks.
On a positive note, Falzarano’s act is sure to drive the leaders of Exodus – the leading ex-gay group – a little crazy. They have long viewed Falzarano as a nutty loose cannon and they never miss an opportunity to deride him. We look forward to the internal fighting Falzarano’s book will cause in the so-called “ex-gay” world.
Anthony:
How odd to have the ultimate ringmaster not want to be part of the circus. The fact is, Anthony, you are a chronic liar.
The versions of your story do not match. You either became ex-gay before it hit the community or after many people were infected. You can’t have it both ways.
Anthony – your tales are very difficult to beleive. The worst part of lying, you have learned, is forgetting what you had said the previous day.
Hmm…. No more Falzarano posts. Now that is certainly pleasant news. It is interesting to note that he admits to lying in his last post. The three stories of leaving the “gay lifestyle” sucessfully are mutually exclusive, unless each was following by abysmal failure. Yet each ends with total success.
Perhaps he has multiple personalities and each story represents the ex-gay success of the various personalities. Perhaps they even have different names.
My apologies for the misuse of the term Mr Falzarano. You are right, I did mean the US. It won’t happen again. Once I see that I was wrong I am happy to accept and acknowledge it….unlike yourself in this discussion it seems. For example, anyone who has kept up with develops re this debate knows that Dr Spitzer himself has publicly admitted the flaws in his study or that it proved that anyone had changed their sexual orientation and he regretted that people has misused his findings to push their own agenda. I thought you would be more informed about that.
I’ve read extensively on both sides of this issue having been an “ex-gay’ for 22 years, married with two children. What I did find was that in essence I could present a fa?ßade of heterosexuality and that I had a degree of heterosexual functionality but I actually NEVER became a true heterosexual male. It was like riding a stationary bike for 22 years. When I stopped peddling and got off I found myself in the same place I was at age 18……….GAY. I decided that it was better to live honestly than trying to lie to myself and others. The sexual addiction that had tormented me died immediately. It’ a common phenomena I’ve found. Hating, denying, suppressing your true self can create all sort of dark things in our lives as does sexual abuse but its not the same sex orientation that causes the problem its only the way it is expressed.
I know people have degrees of release from unhealthy behaviours but I’ve yet to meet someone who has actually changed genuinely from gay to straight.
I will read your book Mr Falzarano. It’ important that I keep learning. You may like to read mine……’A Life of Unlearning — a journey to find the truth’ You can get it on Amazon.com. (shameless bit of self promotion)
Your statement “And their are tens of thousands of ex-gay testimonies to prove it.”….really needs to be challenged. We have two people in Australia who keep making similar claims….except they say 1,000′. Whenever challenged to produce any they can’t. Why, because the testimonies are old (people can’t be tracked down or they are like me, once claimed to be “ex-gay’ but would no longer make that claim), written with a pseudonym and no one who is currently “ex-gay’ is confident enough in their “heterosexual orientation’ to speak publicly.
As I’ve said on the Beyondexgay site “Before you invest the time, money, emotional energy and possibly years of your life trying to go from gay to straight, ask the ex-gay leaders what guarantee they can give you that it will work. If they are honest with you, the best they will be able to offer you as a degree of “heterosexual functionality’, but the gay never actually goes away. Then ask yourself what would be the best way to spend your time, money and emotional energy…..rejecting yourself or accepting yourself. After 22 years of trying to change including ex-gay programs, exorcisms and 16 years of marriage, I came to the realisation that loving myself was far healthier than hating and rejecting my true self. Like 1,000′ of others today, I finally discovered that I can live a wonderfully fulfilling, moral life as an openly gay man and still have my faith”.
I’m glad to know that you have found a better life and a relationship with God. I respect your decisions but I can’t stand by and leave your claim that gay is bad and hetero is good go unchallenged…..and that you offer people the promise of change. WE know that to be false and as you are a student of the Bible you would be well aware what God thinks of those who lie and speak falsehoods about others. Ie the gay community. My experience of the gay community (as opposed to the gay scene) over the last 16 years has been extremely positive.
For those who want to reply to me…..since there are two Anthony’ now…..you may find it helpful to address me as AVB.
LOLZ! “talk like uneducated low-life?” His scriptural references – which are not holy and bear no meaning for Scott and I – have no effect on us. And that is why he calls us “uneducated low-lifes.” That’s his only “trump card” and it is completely ineffective.
I suppose we won’t be considered “educated high-lifes” until we convert to Christianity (HIS form of it). Until then, I think I’ll continue being gay as springtime, especially since female homosexuals are 1) the “most” monogamous 2) the “least” diseased and 3) NOT condemned by the Jewish Scriptures.
“Scott you need help even beyond what Exodus can do for you….”
That would be true, if I were the one claiming to have been fucked by 400 men, claiming to be a former hooker, and if I were the one with multiple accounts of how I first became an “ex-gay”.
And you’re correct – Exodus can’t help me, because I’m not stupid enough to hand my money over to them. And that’s the one and only thing they’re interested in.
But I am kinda curious as to what kind of guidelines you want Wayne to establish here? Something like “I’m allowed to demonize all gay people, and accuse them all of sleeping with 400 men, because I did it, which means EVERY gay person did it. And me – I’m off limits”.
Go f**k yourself. Just because an SUV can be parked up in your behind doesn’t mean every gay person is as loose as you are.
You aren’t owed dialogue with anyone who lives outside of La-La Land.
LOL Emily – it is hilarious that somebody who claims to be an “expert on homosexuality” (with no degree or anything else to prove so) is calling people “uneducated”.
The ability to repeat so-called “christian” rhetoric, lies, and distorted facts and data only makes you an expert at being a liar.
I’ve spent a majority of my life dedicated to music, and I don’t call myself a music expert. This guy throws his legs up for every Tom, Dick and Harry, and all of a sudden he’s an expert on you, me and all gay people.
As for being a “low-life” – I’m not the one trying to hook my talons into vulnerable gay people, just so I can get rich on their mental abuse. Nor do I sell my a*s, or prostitute my soul to “christian” kooks.
Now who’s the “low-life”?
certainly lots of evidences in the Falzarano posts and stories that reflect possible psychological disorders John…..multiple personalities being one of them.
Obsessivenesses never reflects an internally well rounded individual.
Human behaviour is a fascinating study……i’m actually even more intrigued now to read the story and delve deeper into what makes this man tick…..although its possibly already evident…..and reflected in the lives of other ‘ex-gays’ and former ‘ex-gays’. It’s often the same thing…..a melting pot of sexual abuse and addiction….mixed with a self destructive lifestyle all confused with their sexual orientation. Put on top of that a belief system that says same sex love is perverted and that only heterosexuals go to heaven….the end result is inevitable….an Anthony Falzarano
“May I ask if you are you a man or a woman Emprroph and what does your screen name mean?”
Exsqueeze me, I baking powder? I just accused you of slander in the Biblical sense, and your concern is as to the merits of my moniker?
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“but we (in the exgay movement)”
Know this much you sanctimonious little fraud, as an out and out “militant homosexual activist,” you don’t even speak for the “ex-gay movement!”
There may be some “ex-gays” who feel the way you do, but I would never be so audacious as to blanketly ascribe your beliefs to them as a whole.
It’ not your “ex-gay” or “Christian” beliefs that I have a problem with, it’ your dishonesty. Be that it may be willful ignorance on your part, you’re STILL responsible.
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Jeffry Satinover? Good God man, you may as well just cite Paul Cameron as a reference.
Are you also aware that Jeffery Satinover participated in the pantheist endorsing film “What the Bleep do We Know?”
It’ a favorite of mine, but is this something YOU wish to promote?
I am curious to know whom Anthony specifically believes has been uncivil, and the specifics of this incivility.
Anthony has been bluntly called out on his continuing sexual, spiritual, and moral irresponsibility — and his inconsistency and dishonesty. Anthony is welcome to refute the charges with facts.
If he’s looking for one-sided dialogue where he is permitted to project his own immorality onto innocent groups of people — while his targets are required to be docile and contrite — this is not the place. Perhaps Anthony would find Iran more accepting of his false piety.
Falzarano wrote: “How many years is it going to take before the gay community acknowleges that homosexuality IS AN IMMUTABLE CONDITION THAT ONE CAN RECOVER FROM!”
Immutable means unchangeable not changeable.
This is certainly reminiscent of other recent conversations. . .an author, caught twisting facts and backed up against the wall. When confronted with his outright deception and lies, the author bloviates endlessly in the comment sections with attacks on the commentors.
We see the true colors of Falzarano shining through. . . .shades of grey . . . perhaps “immutable”.
Falzarano is just a big ole clown. No one takes him seriously. Not even the religious right. His new book should be entitled, “Desperate for Attention.”
Gary, I was thinking the same thing! Other than their names, they’re both practically interchangeable.
Genocide For Jesus: Anthony Falzarano Book Review: And Such Were Some Of You!
Good point Wayne B: Not all sameSex attracted guys live like drunken dung beetles.
AF’s book’s title is a reference to a poorly translated section of 1st Corinthians in the Bible -a section recently translated as “homosexuals” – among a long list of VERBS. Anyone using e-sword can quickly check the Greek & will immediately discover that the text isn’t to be translated “homo-anything”. “HOMO” is a Greek term ya know – so if it had been the point – it would have been in the text. It isn’t because the text isn’t focused on gender issues. The focus is BEHAVIOR – primarily (2) aspects of human character flaws:
1) Prostitution
2) Complicitness
For example: AF is COMPLICIT with the lies & misrepresentations made by “ex-gay” groups everywhere; -And as a result – he PROSTITUTES his efforts to serve their lies.
As a member of the g0ys (spelled w. a zer0) men’s movement, we’ve done exhaustive studies to prove what the Scripture actually forbid & would you look: It makes absolute sense! According to the CDC & WHO, there is (1) form of sexual contact that spreads disease EXPLOSIVELY (+5000%) into a population and that act is AnalSex. And it is PRECISELY what is forbidden by Leviticus 13:20 (which also explains why the Scripture has NO prohibitions in the Torah against women with women (because women lack the anatomy to do the butt nasty – hence the subject is moot).
According to the New Testament – Love works no ILL. Ever notice how “ILL” sounds like “ILL”?
In Christ, God collapsed Gender (Gal 3:28). When Gender becomes moot; -so does a little thing called “sexual orientation”. However – love works no ill.
I’m part of a rapidly growing group of men who gladly explain these issues in much greater detail to the religious reicht -while explaining that the Bible says that men who falsely accuse will suffer the fate they pronounce on those they attempt to victimize. According to the religious reicht, gays are going to spend eternity where for “acting gay”? Actually — it will be the religious reicht spending eternity in that place (because God is not mocked & Judgment begins 1st in the house of God). Since joining the g0ys men’s movement, I’ve discovered that it really is amazing just how complete the Scriptures really are on this issue of not harming other people (by giving them diseases – or calling them names based on a lie). I’m no friend of “gay media” or “pride parades”, etc. I’ve NEVER done illegal drugs or even been drunk. I’ve never done the butt-nasty. But I do love guys & been incredibly intimate with some of my best friends (who are still my friends). I’ve never used a condom. I’ve never had an STD. And I know the Bible inside & out. I also know from personal experience & research that the majority of men are selectively amBisexual. Very few are completely straight or gay. Most (like AF) fall somewhere in between. And that is the source of the ex-gay movements primary misrepresentations. But ultimately – those who take the time to read the Scriptures discover that gender never mattered anyhow. The only thing that matters is faith expressing itself in love (& love works no ill). Such a simple truth — yet beyond the grasp of so many.
Oops – my Lysdexia kicked in — that Scriptural cite was supposed to be Lev 20:13
(Forbids M2M ANALsex & that’s ALL).
The g0ys have an exhaustive analysis & the primary website & lots of groups have sideline studies to support their Christian/Jewish members who have issue with the “scriptural component” of their attractions.
That’s why I am a Christian and no longer embrace the Jewish part of my heritage because the Old Testament demands that homosexuals be put to deat. With the advent of Jesus Christ we have the forgiveness of our sins. The bible says in the book of James taht”if we confess our sins, He is faithful and will forgive us. The book of 1 Corinthians mentions that there were ex-gays in the early 1st Century Church that renounced their homosexuality and were wahed in the blood of Jesus Christ and received the Holy Spirit and then were able to walk away from their sexual sin. Look at 1 Corinthians 6;9-11 that was the scripture that began my walk out of the gay lifestyle 24 years ago. Anyone can be set free of the gay lifestyle. We didn’t choose to be homosexual BUT we can choose whether we will be gay or not. The Lord God gives us all free will. If you renounce your sexual depravity God will give you the power to walk out of it. If you are stubborn and stay in your sexual sin…YOU WILL DIE IN IT!!!!
What I want to know from Anthony, is does he still have sexual attaction to men, and if so how much? And does he actually have sexual attraction for women, other than his wife like most straight guys do? Is he the new busy bee wanting to pollenate the flowers or not>? But then, this post is waaaaaay lete.
“If you are stubborn and stay in your sexual sin…YOU WILL DIE IN IT!!!!”
Everyone dies, get over yourself.
“What I want to know from Anthony, is does he still have sexual attaction to men, and if so how much?”
Obviously A LOT. Do you see him anywhere else, other than on homosexual-oriented blogs?
The guy is just a walking advertisement for touch therapy, or whatever his services are. Until a single “ex-gay” can pass a lie detector test and is willing to submit their computer and home for inspection of gay materials, including pornography – and passes (which I doubt would happen) – none of them should be believed.
This is all about forking your cash over to them, and nothing more.
I went through an “ex gay” program and it didn’t make me straight. It did take away my willingness to “act out” on sexual desires for other guys, but the feelings were still there regardless and they were not replaced by feelings for girls.
I spent months in lonliness, isolation, and wanting to just kill myself. I cut myself on purpose numerous times. I had no desire for girls, but my desire for guys had been repressed.
It took me months to regain my self esteem and to realize that I was wronged and these people who did this to me is wrong. I am in a relationship with another guy and have been for 5 years.
Reportedly, there are SOME people who have changed from gay to straight. I am not one of those people and the stories of success I learn about are once in a blue moon. It’s too little to say it’s a valid “treatment”.
I pray for anyone who goes through the reparative therapy and I pray that anyone who uses this therapy to say “gays can change” stumbles upon a reality check.
He’s just like his fascist “daddy”, Roy Cohn. AF used to be the self-hating bigot Roy Cohn’s boy-toy.
Anthony, you are and always have been a completely ignorant, inarticulate and manipulative fraud. As a tragically former participant in your so-called “Ex-Gay” Transformation Christian Ministries, I can attest to this fact and can also attest to the fact that God has redeemed me from the clutches of the fraudulent ex-gay movment, however sincere some of its members might be and however self-delusional they might be. I am now on the road to full recover and inclusion in the one true holy, catholic and apostalic church, thanks to many intelligent, discerning holy men and women of God—no thanks to you or your kind. I only pray that one day you finally wake up and admit the truth about who you actually are, and that you one day stop fighting God about the person that He created. Until then, I suspect that you, your wife and your innocent children will continue to suffer the consequences of your obnoxious and completely incredulous efforts that even the most respected leaders of the so-called “ex-gay” movement have rejected as unworthy and prejudicial to their cause.
Just to add another note, after having skimmed through the many back-and-forth comments to and from our dear Anthony F…, I would like to add that, in his supreme wisdom and moral uprightness as a Christian man, he also “counseled” me to lie to my now ex-wife about my homosexual “falls” as they used to label them in our small group “accountability” sessions following each weekly indoctrinational meeting led by Mr. Falzarano. Being a relatively well-educated, logical and analytical person, I was always taken aback by many of Anthony’s inconsistant, illogical and “dumbed-down” approach to Christian teaching. Nonetheless, I chose to overlook that for many months as I struggled and hoped for that magical cure that he promised, and that never happened, even for the most believing and faithful of the “flock.” His sudden removal from his position amidst accusations of financial mismanagement, breach of confidentiality with fellow “ex-gay” men, etc., did not come as a total surprise but only served to reinforce my God-given discernment of reality. So, thank you Anthony for enabling me to see the truth—-which happens to contradict everything you so miserably failed to demonstrate by your actions or support by your ill-chosen words.
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Why “ex-gay” …?
WOW I KNEW ANTHONY WHEN HE WAS OUT AS A GAY MALE
THIS GUY COMES FROM A FAMILY OF SCREW BALLS
MY NEW BOOK “DOWNTOWN” WILL BE OUT EARLY WINTER 2011 AND I MENTION HIM AND HIS ACTS OF CONVENIENCE.
WHEN AIDS REARED ITS UGLY HEAD ANTHONY RAN LIKE A SCARED CHICKEN AND ON THE WAY LEFT MANY PEOPLE THINKING WE HAVE A CHOICE IN LIFE BUT THE FACT IS HE MARRIED A CABBAGE PATCH LOOKING FEMALE FOR HER MONEY AND IS STILL DOING MEN UNDER THE TABLES
HE IS A MESS WITH HIS STUBBY NOSE AND STUBBY PENIS
I HAD SEX WITH HIM A FEW TIMES AND I WANTED TO GO STR8 AFTER THAT
THATS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO ANTHONY… GO AROUND HAVING SEX WITH MEN YOU WANT TO TURN STR8… I’M SURE YOU WILL HAVE MAJOR SUCCESS
R U STILL GOING OUT IN DRAG PICKING UP UNSUSPECTING MEN?
YOU ALWAYS REMINDED ME OF RUTH BUZZY FROM SNL WHEN YOU DID
YOU R A MESS DUDE
OH I ALMOST FORGOT THE FIRST TIME I MET ANTHONY HE HUSTLED ME AND ALL I HAD WAS A ROLL OF QUARTERS WHICH HE GLEEFULLY TOOK
A MALE w***e AND A REAL BORE R U
NEWARK, N.J. WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER OFF WITHOUT YOUR SORRY a*s
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