The Rutland Herald reported last week:
A contempt of court hearing in a case between two women, a former lesbian couple, could have ended Monday with judge-ordered jail time for the biological mother of a child conceived during the pair’s civil union in Vermont.
Instead, it ended with a rare conversation between Lisa Miller and Janet Jenkins, who dissolved their civil union half a decade ago.
Miller and her attorneys have frequently touted her departure from “the lesbian lifestyle.” However, in a LifeSiteNews interview related to the hearing, Miller seems to indicate that she was never really attracted to women.
Since 2004, Miller has violated numerous court rulings in Vermont and Virginia granting Jenkins visitation rights with their daughter, who was born in 2002.
The Rutland Herald reported:
But after complying for months with a Rutland Family Court visitation schedule in 2007 and the winter and spring of 2008, Miller began denying Jenkins access to her daughter in May.
Miller’s failure to comply with or appeal a Family Court order to schedule makeup time for missed visits prompted Judge William Cohen to hold Miller in contempt of court.
But after hearing testimony from Jenkins and Miller, the judge decided against punitive measures, instead imposing a new visitation schedule and ordering Jenkins and Miller to communicate directly during preparations for visits and the visits themselves.
“Clearly, it’s in the child’s best interest for there to be contact between the two,” Cohen said while ordering Miller and Jenkins not to avoid or deny any e-mails, text messages or phone calls from the other party.
The hearing examined reasons for the years of communication breakdown between Miller and Jenkins. Miller spoke vaguely of “accusations” made by Jenkins.
Asked by Lisa Chalidze, one of Jenkins’ attorneys, whether she would comply with future court orders, Miller said she “didn’t know.”
The Herald added:
Miller, who has a pending motion seeking to terminate future visits with Jenkins in Rutland Family Court, said after the hearing that in addition to threats of suicide, her daughter had nightmares, sometimes acted like a little “animal,” wet the bed and engaged in behaviors inappropriate for a 6-year-old girl.
But a police investigation in Virginia found charges of child abuse unsubstantiated, attorneys from both sides of the case said, and Jenkins said Monday evening that Miller’s allegations were what drove her to cease communications with her former partner.
“From very early on when I would spend time with my daughter we would have a great time but when she got home I would find out that she had a temper tantrum or acted out which is separation anxiety, not abuse,” she said. “After a while, I felt like I needed witnesses around all the time which is why I would always have my parents or a friend of the family with me when I picked her up.”
“I’m a mother who will not abandon my daughter,” she added. “That’s the only reason I keep showing up (in court.)”
Focus on the Family, Pat Robertson’s CBN, and the religious-rightist LifeSiteNews all wrote about the hearing, but failed to report Jenkins’ version of events and instead portrayed the law-breaking Miller as a victim of homosexual activists and misguided counselors.
Focus quoted Mat Staver of the religious-rightist Liberty Counsel:
Matt Staver (sic), founder and chairman of Liberty Counsel, called it “a very difficult situation.”
“You can imagine any parent would be concerned,” he said, “but particularly a parent who sees their daughter exposed to a homosexual lifestyle that is very confusing.”
CBN quoted Staver accusing Jenkins of causing Isabella to suffer “nightmares, bed wetting episodes, fear, anxiety and even desires to hurt herself.”
LifeSiteNews one-sidedly repeated Miller’s accusations of abuse, and quoted Miller’s lawyer alluding to affidavits by unnamed religious-rightist friends and teachers. In an edited interview, Miller tells LSN that she was not strongly attracted to women, but had been fooled into believing she was lesbian by mental-health workers:
I had actually identified myself as a lesbian a couple of years before meeting Janet, and it was through a process — I was hospitalized 14 years ago for an alcohol addiction and it was when I was in the hospital the first time for that which was in February of 1994 that I had a failed marriage and I had also tried to commit suicide and that was how I got a trip to the hospital. I tried to commit suicide and I was in ICU actually for 5 days — it was a miracle that I was alive. I was in a regular med unit for 2 days and then in the state of Virginia you go to the psych ward if you try to take your life. It’ a state rule.
So, it was when I was in the psych ward — you get put through evaluations, group therapy, individual therapy and it was through this process of them trying to figure out what was wrong with me that they said, “Well, we don’t really know but we really think that you are probably a lesbian and you are having problems with coming out issues.”
They actually put that as my treatment plan and I had to meet with my family before they would release me from the hospital to explore this issue. So, that was the first time that I had really explored this issue. It was in the hospital, with my parents, my extended family and also my husband at the time, even though we were separated, and soon after that we parted ways and we got a divorce. So, back in 1994, was the first time that I really self-identified myself as a lesbian.
Struggling with substance abuse and an unhappy heterosexual marriage, Miller had attempted suicide and subsequently underwent extensive therapy:
Well, this was a brand new program, it was in Prince William Hospital and literally at that time, it was a brand new psych ward. It was part of the hospital but it wasn’t in the hospital — it was in a separate building on the ground. They had what they called innovative therapy. They did an eclectic view and at the time there were two lesbians there on the unit as patients and they were in just for a regular psych stay for emotional issues, I guess. My marriage was failing, they took that information in — I was sexually and physically abused as a child. I did not get along with my mother at all — my mother was mentally ill as well. She had multiple personalities and they took all of these and they also took the fact that medicine wasn’t working, according to them and I didn’t want to take it because it made me feel weird. They took all of this and they said, “Well, we really think that you are a lesbian.” And they had me be in a therapy group with these other two ladies who were on the unit. So, that was their diagnosis.
Convinced by others that she was lesbian, Miller says, she eventually met Jenkins:
Janet and I did not have a typical relationship. We were together — however, there was rarely any intimacy. Maybe once or twice a year and this was consistent throughout the relationship. I personally did not feel that way. This upset Janet a great deal and a lot of the abuse centered around that, as well, with name-calling and things like that. I just didn’t feel that way. For me, being with her, and this is going to sound weird, but it was like a comfort zone because I was used to being abused growing up — it was something on a regular basis.
I hope to have more to say about this interview soon. It appears, however, that Miller was by her own admission not a lesbian — never predominantly same-sex-attracted. She merely sought platonic female companionship. If that is true, then she has spent the past four years falsely equating a true lesbian sexual orientation with her largely sexless, insecure, and emotionally unstable “lifestyle.”