Oh, Dr. Bumpkin, shut thy mouth up:
Dr. Phil advises a parent whose son likes to play with girls’ toys and wear girls’ clothing to “take the girl things away, and buy him boy toys” on his show’s “Ask Dr. Phil” segment.
Robbie tells Dr. Phil that her 5-year-old son likes to play with Barbies and likes to wear girls’ clothing, which she doesn’t think is normal. In the segment, she asks the talk-show host how to deal with his behavior.
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Dr. Phil, who recently has increased his support for gay and lesbian teens, particularly when it comes to bullying in schools, then suggests that the solution is to take the girls’ toys away from the boy.
“Direct your son in an unconfusing way. Don’t buy him Barbie dolls or girls’ clothes. You don’t want to do things that seem to support the confusion at this stage of the game. … Take the girl things away, and buy him boy toys.
“Support him in what he’s doing, but not in the girl things.”
You know, I’m not a doctor, but I know enough about psychology to tell y’all that making your five year-old son feel ashamed of wanting to play with “girl toys,” for whatever reason the child wants to, is not healthy.
He’s not even officially a doctor, he lost his license over 20 years ago for ethical violations. Sadly, a lot of folks either don’t know or don’t care about this, given that he still draws audiences.
Sounds like the only confusion here is with this boy’s mother and with Dr. Phil himself.
Without any outside interference, it is doubtful that this boy is doing anything that is confusing to him. He likes playing with dolls. He likes playing dress up.
How is it that this man is still allowed to call himself “Dr.” and to speak on issues and make such recommendations as a perceived professional in the matter?
Seems to me that by not allowing the boy to be himself will be what ends up confusing him. As for Dr. Phil, I didn’t care much for him way back when he was a semi-regular on Oprah.
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I think a few e-mails to (Dr.) Phil from gay readers might be in order; I strongly disagree with the advice he gave this mother. (Giving the kid macho things to play with, is not going to change his liking as to what he wants to play with) !! Get over it (Dr.) Phil !)
Dr. Phil is every bit as nutty as Dr. Laura, if that’s possible. How do these wackos get national radio/TV programs without being exposed for what they are?
JJ
He’s not even a real licensed doctor, he’s a TV buffoon with negative condescending opinions about anything that blurs rigid lines he was raised within. The man is pondscum and a complete idiot, and I guarantee parents heeding his advice WILL result in a few suicides in the years to come, if it hasn’t already.
Being born a “male” he most likely has all the “boys toys” in the kit of boys toys….
By the time a child is 5 their inborn person is devloped and pretty much decided! Anything after that is a situation of addition to what is already there.
I suggest to get to know what the childs inborn nature and inclination is and nurture that! Children are born to shape and carry on for future generations…not to perpetrate forced “images” of what or whom parents or a certain “society” things they “should” be…. people are born to “be” who they ARE….”let it be”!
oh, by the way…….taking girls toys away from boys or visa versa….is only a circumstantial effort.
give both sets of toys to both genders and be happy with the blend!
i stopped wearing dresses at age 3 and never played with barbies. it was all about Legos (space and knights), and also video games and transformers.
Pink was like poison to me – stayed clear away from it.
Oh, my sex is female, btw. I might be gay, but I’m absolutely certain of my sex.
All this retched advice will do is make the little boy unhappy and ashamed. Let kids play with the toys they enjoy, and forget about shoehorning them into rigid, stereotypical gender roles.
I can’t believe that you think that anyone who has an opinion that does not match yours is stupid. Maybe you think that you know all… and can give advice on how to raise kids to people. Who do you think you are saying that your opinion is so much better than Dr. Phil’s? You are arrogant. You are doing something that he does not do: giving your opinion to people who never asked and don’t care. He at least has people asking for his opinion, to which he responds. Do I think Dr. Phil is perfect? NO. But people do respect and ask him for advice. NOBODY is asking for yours, and until they do – stop thinking that yours is right and ANYBODY who doesn’t agree with you is wrong. There is more than one right way to do things. Talk about bumpkins, narrow minded people.
That’s right Denise. Every issue has two equal sides. Why don’t you tell me your side about how the earth is 6000 years old? I’m quite sure you believe that. It’s a perfectly valid opinion, right?! Even though there’s absolutely no evidence for that belief and all the evidence available goes against it…