Ever since our successful petition to have Exodus International’s iPhone app deleted from the app store, untold numbers have had a chance to learn about the insidious “ex-gay” industry and what it actually does to people. So Peterson and some of the other “ex-gay” survivors have started a hash tag on Twitter — #exgaysurvivor — to share their stories with each other and the world. Here’s some of what they have so far:
Whenever I make a mistake, I still fight the voice in my head that tells me it’s because I’m evil and possessed by a demon – @cylestnichole
After my gay-related exorcism, the only thing that went away was my love for myself – @vcervantes
My family was deeply wounded by Exodus International staff – @p2son
Has barely begun to scratch the surface of the ways they have been harmed by their ex-gay past… it is all too painful… – @never_again4
In ex-gay ministry, I was told if I wasn’t changing to str8t then I wasn’t trying hard enough – @gaysexpert
The twisted Emotionally Dependent Relationship teaching is an invasive species that digs into the brain. Awful – @MJaneB65
The thing is, the silent or implied messages were often more insidious than the direct and explicit ones. – @JarredH
I became depressed and suicidal after ex gay therapy. – @jeraskew1
Never would I have considered that there was a problem with the system. I was made to believe I WAS the problem – @gaysexpert
Being told not to form Emotionally Dependent Relationships kept me in fear of love. http://t.co/97hetHL – @MJaneB65
It was awful because so often ex-gay leaders blamed ME for not trying hard enough or trusting Jesus – @p2son
The only time I’ve ever felt separated from God was during my ex-gay experience – @cylestnichole
I was told that if I was gay, God would utterly reject me – @gaysexpert
God is not the author of confusion, but of love. My time in reparative therapy produced nothing but confusion and hate – @never_again4
They told me that I had gay demons. Then that abuse made me gay. Then my parents failed. #exgay ministers misled me -@p2son
They told me my “boy” was too much and my “girl” was not enough. I became nothing. @MJaneB65
college sent me to ex-gay therapy & all I got was a hospital bill after trying to kill myself bc they told me I was sick&sinful – @never_again4
After 10 years of reparative therapy I was hospitalized because I was suicidal – @MJaneB65
Actual Suicide note: “God would rather have me die now than to live with another gay thought.” – @gaysexpert
‘Love Won Out’ came to my college. After that, I attempted suicide 3 times within one year. I never told any of my friends – @cylestnichole
My counselors didn’t believe I existed. And, like Tinkerbell, poison and disbelief almost killed me. I do believe in fairies! – @connoley
If you have a story to tell, or genuinely want to learn more about the horrific lies perpetuated by the “ex-gay” industry, get thee to the Twitters and join in, and keep up with Peterson’s blog in the meantime. AND speaking of Twitter, since I haven’t mentioned it on the blog in a while, you should also follow me and Truth Wins Out, if you want, and you should want to, because come on.










Evan, thank you for sharing the words of ex-gay survivors with your readers.
@jeraskew1 wrote today, “ex gay therapies hinted I’d had repressed memories of sexual abuse ad created incredible insecurity for years. #exgaysurvivor”
Society (and anti-gay churches in particular) fed us the lie that we would be more valuable if we were not queer. We would only be truly welcome if we destroyed our sexuality and gender differences. The ex-gay providers (Exodus, NARTH, Living Waters, People Can Change, Evergreen, Courage, etc) gave us the weapons necessary to go to war against ourselves.
What ever happened to modeling one’s life after that of Jesus? Could one imagine Jesus saying any of these awful, condemnatory, harmful things to anyone who turned to him for consolation? Would Jesus himself cause one to hate oneself then council that person to fight, fight, fight everyday against what are their natural desires for human love and caring and intimacy? Don’t live life; just battle your natural feelings on a daily basis!
These organizations are cruel beyond belief. The emotional degradation heaped on emotionally distraught gay people is appalling. AND it is all a lie and done for the sake of MONEY! If they can corral you, your family, etc you will forever be donating to their cause. Your feelings, life, personal happiness don’t matter to them at all. I don’t care how much deluded dedication their proponents have – it is all a lie and a distortion of what they consider to be God’s love. AND you will suffer for submitting to it. Seek professional help, if you need counseling. Don’t drink the Cool Aid these bottom-feeders are offering.
“What ever happened to modeling one’s life after that of Jesus? ”
I believe that privilege is restricted to poor people only.
“easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle”…..
wise comment Ben in Oakland.
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