neil david Neil Patrick Harris Explains Why Labels Sometimes MatterNPH would like his longtime partner/boyfriend/what-have-you to be called his “husband,” please:

“I`m not the biggest fan of the word `partner`. It either means that we run a business together or we`re cowboys. `Boyfriend` seems fleeting, like maybe we met two weeks ago,” said Harris.

“I`ve been saying `better half` for as long as I`ve been able to. I think it`s a little self-deprecating and clearly defines that we`re in a relationship, but it would be nice to say `my husband,” he added.

I completely agree. Part of the discrimination involved in denying gays and lesbians equal marriage rights has nothing to do with hospital visitation or estate planning. Sometimes it’s really simple little things like “how do I introduce my spouse to my coworkers?”

Personally, I’m a fan of using the word “husband” whether or not the government approves. It would be nice, though, when that time comes, to be using the word in the exact same sense as my straight friends are using it, with everything that it entails.