Patrick Wallace posted this over at HuffPost, and it needs to be shared far and wide. A little backstory: this is a kid who was taken from his frankly unfit, drug-abusing mother at age eight, thrown around the foster system, and then adopted several years later by a gay couple. As with many kids adopted that age, Zac had a lot of problems. Very often, it’s gay couples who are willing to take the kids that nobody else wants. Here is the letter that Zac, now 15, read to his family this past Christmas:
To my Family,
This is the first Christmas letter that I have ever written. I feel like since I am getting older, I should start writing a letter to the family or just talk about how I thought the family’s year has gone until Christmas.
Ever since I ended up in this family people have told me that I was lucky. I have always known that I am lucky, especially when I have two dads that love me so much as Dad and Dadio. My family is very special to me. Even when we fight and even when we argue, I know they will always love me. Yes I am a lucky boy to have ended up here after spending so many years in foster care and not knowing if I would ever have a family.
I didn’t grow with a dad. My birthmom had many boyfriends and she did a lot of drugs and partying. My sisters and me were taken from her on my eighth birthday. It was not fun to have police in my room on that day. It made me sad and this sadness I carried for many years and it got me in a lot of trouble. Then I landed in a great foster home after having lived in 12 different homes in three years. It was when I lived there that both my foster mom and social worker told me there was a family that wanted me. There was a catch: it was two dads!
Honestly, it didn’t matter to me. I told them, “well, I never had a dad, now I get to have two!”
The start was tough and rough, and I put them through hell and back. I did awful and nasty things to them both. I stole their credit card and spent thousands of dollars online. When we went on my first vacation out of the country, I stole stuff from a souvenir stand – they found out and made me go back to the shop to return the souvenirs and made me pay the lady who owned the shop for the stolen property which then I had to give to a local kid. I didn’t get it and thought they were being mean.
When I stole their American Express and maxed it buying stuff online I was only 12 years old. They were very upset, but Dad made sure I got the message of how serious this was. He took me to our local police station and reported me to the police captain for having stolen again. I was taken to an interrogation room and talked to by three police officers. All the time there I only wanted my Dad to come in and bring me home. I wanted to turn time back to before my stealing so I would not be there and I would not have hurt my parents so much. I learned my lesson and NEVER stole again!
But Dad and Dadio brought not just me into this family. They also added my brother Derrick. What I can say about Derrick is that he is really cool, he is funny, he is an awesome gay guy, he is a one of a kind guy, he is my bro. Next they added Nick. Nick can get on my nerves sometimes, but in the end he is pretty cool. He is a fast leaner when it comes to math and multiplying numbers. And with that said, I will go to the roots of the family.
Dad and Dadio. They are my parents and they are always here when I need them.
When it is dark they are the light,
When I feel frightened and chill’s,
They are the warmth I feel.
When I am hungry they cook my meals.I did not put a lot of time into the poem, but in the poem you see my parents. The people that show me the light. The people that warm my heart when it gets dark. The people that cook my meals. If I could only ask for anything for Christmas I would only ask for my family.
By Zac
Those are the family values the Religious Right is fighting against. Just sayin’.










What a beautiful example of how a loving family can work miracles in a child’s life. God bless this entire family!
Awesome story. Any two drunk straight people can make a baby, it takes no talent and hardly any effort. Making a FAMILY is a whole ‘nother thing, and lots of straight people have no business raising kids. But lots of gay people do great with it. As this story shows.
D’awwwwwww!
If only every foster child could have a forever family…
What an amazing couple of Dads and an amazing young man!
{something in my eyes, needing kleenex}
Love, commitment, and holding the line will save many a kind (or adult). Hoorah and blessings on Zac’s Dads and their children
KID not kind
This is a nice story and I am a christian but I believe on Gods grace I know that lots of christians say that being gay is wrong and technically it is BUT I believe that being gay is just as wrong as any other sin God says that if we ask for forgiveness and believe in jesus and that he died for our sins then we are saved it doesn’t say except gays so with that said I am saying as a
christian that this is a great story I pray that this family will be saved and have a relationship with God and nor allow the stereotypes and misconceptions about the truth to get in the way ! I am praying for you all!
Jeana if being gay “is techinically wrong” why does god keep making us? You’d think he’d be a little less prone to error. Get over (what I suume is ) your literal interpretation of The Bible. There’s a lot of wonky things in there like stoneing people and women needing to be put to death if they aren’t virgins on their marriage bed.
Sorry to get off topic, this letter is amazing and I look foreward to being able to adopt.
@Jeana
I pray the gay kid sees his loving dad’s example and finds a guy he can do the same with as his fathers did w him. God and Jesus worked thru those dads to save kids’ lives. They are more “saved” and a bigger benefit to god’s children than you know or are giving them credit for. There is no change needed here. We need more of the same. Not everyone cares for religion nor wants or needs prayers to change, anything. The very thought is irritating. I believe it’s you that needs the prayers. It’s not your job to change the world to fit the irrational, but it is your job to change your mind about the world. A little bit of judgement tweaking and you’ll “see the light”.
Wayne,
This is an awesome letter Wayne. “Far and wide” yes! Thanks a mil for posting this. It made my day just a whole lot brighter.
My best to you and your Hubby. May you last a lifetime together.
Peace out.
PS Has adopting ever entered into your marriage equation?
Jeana– a word to a believer from an atheist.
You aren’t god. you don’t represent god. you don’t speak for god. And you are completely unqualified to speak about any other person’s relationswhip with god.
Why? Becuase I doubt god confides in you about his relationship with anyone, gay or straight.
I suggest you do what Jesus himself recommended. Mind your own goddmaned and goddamning business, look after your own soul, and stay the hell out of our lives.
Jeana, I’m sure you believe you’re being all kind and liberal making out homosexuality is just another ‘sin’ (you know, like thieving and rape and murder) but surely you can’t want this happy family to break up because it doesn’t fit in with what you claim your Bible says is complete and right?
I’m not saying it’s you who believes this but a lot of the ‘pro family’ Christian types say that a family isn’t a family unless it’s a biological Mum and Dad. What would have happened to this kid and his sisters if he’d been allowed to stay with his biological Mother?
I mean, the kid himself has said he had a rotten childhood and had a lot of problems and caused his parents a lot of grief but finally found happiness and contentment and the meaning of true family love with his two Dads. Isn’t that proof that the sex of the adults bringing him up doesn’t matter?
Jeana,
So you read this boy’s letter, and instead of seeing a wonderful family comprised of caring nurturing fathers and a thriving son, the main thing you see is SIN.
Your affiliation with a widely respected superstitious belief system has given you an unwarranted sense of confidence and authority to judge how others are living their lives. And by the way, saying “I am praying for you all!” really conveys an unwarranted sense of superiority. But if you must judge and pray, why don’t you pray for the wisdom to judge people based upon tangible results for themselves (and impact on others, if any), rather than mindlessly looking to see how their lives align with your interpretation of a ancient holy book.
Jeana, if you must pray for that family, pray that other foster kids will be able to find families who will love and care for them in the same way that these fathers love and care for their children.
Jeana:
You need a reality check, and you also need to get a crash course in “right vs. wrong,” apart from your weird interpretation of your favorite religious book.
Any human who reads this story and thinks anything besides “wow, what a wonderful couple those two guys are,” is mentally sick.
The fact that you want to “pray for their sins,” means that you want them to A. stop being gay, B. break up, C. destroy their family. You wish to destroy this family.
Evil.
Pure evil.
What’s tragic about Jeana’s post is that, according to her, these two awesome gay men are no better than the dead-beat mom – despite their selflessness in opening their home to Zac, who was obviously emotionally troubled. That they persevered where twelve(!) other couples didn’t, just doesn’t mean a thing to her.
That she goes on and on about the ‘sin’ of being gay, while saying absolutely NOTHING about the moral state of a woman who ‘had many boyfriends and she did a lot of drugs and partying’ to the point where her kids were permanently taken from her shows which ‘sin’ is worse in her eyes.
Nonetheless, this was a beautiful letter. I am very happy that Zac (and Derrick, and Nick) have found a loving, structured and safe home with two parents who have the kids’ best interests at heart, and are willing to go to great lengths to reinforce that love, structure and safety. :)
Suck on that, Santorum!!
@Jeana: Until you and your no-doubt perfect Christian family are willing to take in these kids that practically everyone else has given up on, I suggest you keep your snotty, arrogant, conceited opinions to yourself.