Comments on: This is What Hate Looks Like: Father Cruelly Disowns Son for Coming Out

By: Toby

Toby — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:37:59 +0000

The above posters who assured James he can find his own family of choice who will offer the love and support we all need are absolutely correct.My own gay family is my real family – there in good times and bad, at Christmas dinner and when times are difficult.I simply can not comprehend a so-called “father” such as he who wrote that terrible letter. My own life is blessed with 5 adopted gay sons who are the continual joy of my partner’s and my own existence. They are a blessing to us such as can not be truly described and I would do anything for them. James’ father, given such a son turns against him! What a foolish, impoverished,spiritually ugly man. Difficult though it will be, James must count himself fortunate to be well rid of him. I know that is much easier said than done because some of our sons have similar birth parents and the pain is always there. Be assured though, James, that there are good, kind and loving people who will accept you for the beautiful, courageous person that you are and will become your REAL family. Be open to the possibilities and ready to accept love and it will find you. Avoid bitterness and despair.They are the tools with which evil people such as your unfortunate birth father use to try to destroy you. Don’t do their work for them. Put aside such tools and seek positive and affirming people. They are not far to find. Love wins, in the end.

By: Misha

Misha — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 02:33:45 +0000

many of my friends and loved ones were disowned by their family. i, myself, was kicked out at sixteen and my sister ended up living with me over the whole thing. despite how much it hurts and how difficult it is, there will always be people who will support you and love you like family.
right now i am going through a rough patch because my roommate who lost his father who always supported him and in fact, referred to me as his son. unfortunately his current wife does not like us and does not want us involved in memorial, funeral and contesting the will for it was apparently written under duress. it is a shame she is making a difficult time even more difficult and hurtful.

By: Mak

Mak — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 22:38:58 +0000

Frank seems to think that when a man calls his son’s “lifestyle” degrading and disowns him just because he’s gay, gay people are “politicizing” and acting inappropriately by talking about it as a gay issue.

Gee, I wonder what Frank would consider appropriate for gay people to act upon and discuss. It’s as though he doesn’t actually want gay people to talk about gay issues.

By: Priya Lynn

Priya Lynn — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 22:29:47 +0000

Frank, its pretty pathetic that people like you keep trying to trivialize such offenses as merely “beleiv[ing] differently from you.”. You’re not fooling anyone Frank, people like this father are evil.

By: Paul Mc

Paul Mc — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 21:53:51 +0000

Hello Frank. Welcome to Earth. Here on this lovely blue and green planet, we value families and LBGT children more than anyone want love and acceptance from their own parents. Sadly, so-called christians are told to disown and push away their own children against the advice of their leader Jesus who said ‘suffer the little children to come onto me’. So the LBGT community must fight the dark forces to help parents love their children. That is a noble goal we LBGT humans take very seriously and we are winning that fight, although too slowly.

I hope you can take this message back to your galaxy and tell the other poor blind creatures that live there that Planet Earth will soon base families on just on love (acceptance) not hate (arbitrary rejection).

By: Frank

Frank — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 17:01:23 +0000

While tragic and an abandonment of parental responsibility, this is not hate. Just a man who does not know what love really is.

And this has nothing to do with the “fight” against those that beleive differently from you. Shame on you for making this tragic family affair political.

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:26:44 +0000

This came off Reddit, posted by the user RegBarc reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/xspz1/5_years_ago_i_was_disowned_via_letter_when_i_came/

By: Jerry

Jerry — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 14:56:47 +0000

Lois,

That’s absolutely beautiful. It brought me tears.

I copied the father’s letter and sent it to all my own very supportive relatives and told them how lucky I am.

By: Jay

Jay — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 13:29:37 +0000

The comment above by Lois leaves me deeply touched. Thank you for posting such an affirmative message.

By: Lois

Lois — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 12:35:36 +0000

As the mother of five equally loved and cherished children, four straight, one gay (deceased, and how we miss him, still, after nearly 20 years), I can’t even grasp the cruel ‘parenting’ that would reject a gay child. Our gay son was our firstborn, and as the other four kids were born, the bond among them all just deepened and grew. When our son died at age 36, our hearts all broke with the loss of this adored big brother, treasured son, always ‘there’ for his siblings, no matter what problem any of them might have. Mom’s and Dad’s pride in him and love for him was, and is, overflowing.
To all you beloved GLBT dear ones reading this, please know that you are perfectly created in the flawless Image of the Lord who makes NO mistakes. Live out your invaluable, worth-filled lives in this truth.