gay family 300x211 NYT: Gay Couples Face Pressure to Have ChildrenFrom today’s New York Times:

When the jubilant couple were wed in June, they exchanged personalized vows and titanium rings, cheered the heartfelt toasts and danced themselves breathless. Then, as the evening was winding down, unexpected questions started popping up.

One after another, their guests began asking: Are you going to have kids? When are you going to have kids?

Tom Lotito and Matt Hay, both 26, could not help but feel moved. They never imagined as teenagers that they would ever get married, much less that friends and family members would pester them about having children.

“It’s another way that I feel like what we have is valid in the eyes of other people,” said Mr. Hay, who married Mr. Lotito in June before 133 guests.

As lawmakers and courts expand the legal definition of the American family, same-sex couples are beginning to feel the same what-about-children pressure that heterosexual twosomes have long felt.

For some couples, it is another welcome sign of their increasing inclusion in the American mainstream. But for others, who hear the persistent questions at the office, dinner parties and family get-togethers, the matter can be far more complicated.

(Read the full article here.)

While repetitiously answering questions about whether and when we’re going to have kids can occasionally make Michael and I feel like broken records (and if you’re wondering: yes, we are planning on it, but not until we’re both in our thirties), every time I’m tempted to feel exasperated I remind myself how lucky we are to be alive during the first time in history when those questions are openly and seriously being asked of couples like us.