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To his family, Kirk Andrew Murphy was an eccentric young boy in a society that fears eccentricity.

To the founders of what would become Exodus International and NARTH, Kirk was merely a guinea pig, a prototype for their latest “state of the art” aversion therapy.
State of the art? Not really. These were the 1970s, but the NARTH founders’ ideology was rooted in harsh 19th-century myths about child development. While the remainder of the mental-health profession was starting to view gay people as equals, people like reparative therapist George Rekers hoped to give old-fashioned abuses a sexy new image.
Couched in an amateurish veneer of clinical legitimacy, the particular aversion therapy that was inflicted upon Kirk involved outright child abuse: Weekly whippings and beatings that, if successful, would condition the child to be not who he was, but rather what a godfearing society expected him to be.
Decades later, physically abusive aversion therapies are now frowned-upon. Today’s ex-gay activists and aversion therapists have learned how to scar people without leaving physical marks.
Exodus International therefore plays word games regarding its stance on aversion. Says Exodus president Alan Chambers:
We … don’t approve of aversion or shock therapy, or the warrior therapy, where they get naked and run through the woods. We don’t allow any of those things. So we have very specific guidelines on what you can and can’t do. We do one-on-one counseling, therapy, support groups like you would find in any AA meeting, accountability groups, structured groups that are programmatic like Living Waters, which is one of the oldest programs in our ministry.
What Chambers doesn’t say is that Exodus’ one-on-one counseling and “support” groups consist primarily of defamations and humiliating caricatures of gay people and their relationships: Characterizations that are intended to avert sexual awareness in participants through relentless shame, fear, intimidation — and ostracism, should any participant not conform. Exodus program participants learn that they must pretend to be someone else — and avert sexual thought, concern for human rights, and respect for other faith perspectives — as a condition to remain in fellowship with their friends and community.
Since the 1970s, Exodus and its intellectual godfathers at NARTH have found new ways to deprive people of hope, support, and self-respect. This is their modus operandi. But why? The goal, it seems, is to tear sex- and gender-variant people down and alienate them from authentic help and spiritual support in school, home, and church, until they have no one left to turn to — except fraudulent fundamentalists who offer inclusion and companionship that is conditioned upon obedience and conformity.
But I think many of Exodus’ victims, on some level, see ex-gays for what they are: Unhappy and purposely ignorant people with exceedingly shallow notions of faith and conditional friendship. So Exodus’ evangelical ruse doesn’t work: Instead of converting to a fraudulent religious affiliation, some of Exodus’ victims simply kill themselves.
The damage lives on in ex-gay survivors — those who escape Exodus’ therapeutic fraud and seek recovery — and to stay ahead of its trail of survivors, Exodus is busily seeking new ways to damage people.
Right now, Exodus is convening its annual “Freedom Conference” and pep rally in Asheville, North Carolina. (TWO will be there with Mel White to counter the lies) It’s a slick affair, in which prosperous antigay bigots and deeply closeted Christian gays celebrate freedom from sexuality, material facts, the temptation of reality, and religious diversity. They convince themselves that “freedom” from reality is threatened by gay rights. They warn grimly about “homosexuality” (sexual honesty) “impacting” the innocent like an deadly asteroid. They promise “hope” and “compassion” (pity) to people whose hope and passion have been crushed by the defamatory preachings and discrimination of Exodus’ own antigay church network.
When Exodus markets “freedom,” what it’s really marketing is old-fashioned aversion therapy in new wrapping-paper.
(Read more about this awful George Rekers experiment at Box Turtle Bulletin. Jim Burroway has written a long, but important investigation of this case)







This kind of garbage makes me want to scream .. loudly. How can these people like Rekers, Michael Brown, the Exodus bunch and all of their ilk go recklessly and blissfully through life never acknowledging the lives they have destroyed with their total b******t!!!
They simply do not care. These people were brainwashed into an ideology, and don’t care how many people they destroy in support of their dangerous beliefs.
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Actually Wayne, I think their acquiescence to their own brainwashing has brought them to the place where they honestly think they are doing good when they defame and perjure themselves about gay people. They don’t see the destruction that we see, and even if they did they have convinced themselves that the higher good of following god and “saving souls” exculpates them from any blame. Remember, their god ordered the slaughter of the Egyptian first-born as well as the Amorites and many other hapless victims just to prove points. Why should making gay kids miserable be such a big deal? Its all in god’s divine plan….
The “new” methods are ones many spouses experience as verbal and emotional abuse. These are the very methods some church leaders use, including the Catholic pope and bishops, when they tell lies to people about us. They are abuse. They are a form of sexual abuse. They are an attack on people’s very sexual identity and gender identity.
People need to love their children,siblings and family as the people that they were “born” to BE!….
Preconcieved conception of what a gender is to be or how to act is a sad society to live in. Each person is to be whom they were born as……
Respect God, and love oneanother!
people do these abusive acts because they are so unsure of who they are , they are bullies and are like a pack of wild animals-attack because someone else did——etc etc etc —digusting
corpral punishment is a big part of fundamintalism.
I too, was part of the school….
But I do not find it in Jesus’ teachings. It is a misconception that many religionists have….but very far from the love of God….
Well, Will, I suspect that being a fundie means never having to say you are sorry for anything. I was in a religious community (Russian Orthodox) and the abbot told me that if I wasn’t obedient he could whip or beat me. I told him if he tried it I would cram whatever he was going to do up his a*s and then left. What is it with right wing religion and violence?
@ Merlyn-I’m no psychologist, but my guess is the violence that is practiced and *enjoyed* by the religious right (I say enjoyed because they are known to prefer more violent computer games as well as the immense popularity of the absurdly gory and violent ‘Passion of the Christ’) involves two factors. The first is that they believe humans are basically fallen, evil, and rotten and they have a God given mission to limit and correct that; even if that means using violence, since the ends always justifies the means when someone is dealing in absolutes. The other reason (I’m guessing again) is that due to their religious beliefs, they deny themselves many basic fundamental joys and pleasures in life and are consequently miserable as cat s**t. They take this frustration out on others by being total pricks, to the point of violence sometimes; especially against those who don’t have the power to defend themselves, like children and lgbt people. The legendary cruelty of nuns and some priests in ‘the olden days’ when I was young probably had as much to do with an austere, sexless life as it did with a classroom full of rambunctious kids.
Evangelical culture values suffering as noble and inevitable. My mother’s words on the matter with respect to my gender identity were “I don’t care about his happiness, this is about his soul!”. Better to off yourself miserable but ‘redeemed’ than live well and love as a sinner, right?
It is unfortunate that you chose to relegate your reference to the report on Box Turtle Bulletin to a parenthetical throwaway line. The BTB report should have been the focus of your posts on this issue, not an afterthought.
The report on Box Turtle Bulletin is thorough and extensive. It provides far more information and context than the CNN piece. The BTB report reflects substantial work by Jim Burroway over many months. That should weigh more heavily than the glitz of the television medium.
Pete:
First of all, television is more important in America. That will always get top billing. It has the emotion that is key to moving people, which a report cannot do.
Second, CNN interviewed me for the piece and that is how I found out about this. I had not heard from Jim.
Third, we will cover the Box Turtle Bulletin report in more detail. However, because it is long and detailed, we should have gotten an embargoed copy way in advance. That way we would have had time to leisurely read it. The long report was basically dropped in our lap without warning (Got it on a list serve — not even contacted) on a very busy week that includes:
1) The launching of the Southern Baptist petition.
2) TWO countering the “ex-gay” myth in Asheville, where Exodus is holding its annual conference.
3) Boston Pride on Saturday.
So, basically, I will be in Burlington, Boston, Asheville, and Phoenix in the course of a week. This hardly gives me time to carefully read a major report that came out of the blue with no warning.
Given my schedule and lack of warning, the CNN Anderson Cooper version fits much better into my schedule this week. I greatly appreciate Jim’s work on this topic. But, if he wants adequate media coverage, he has to give advance copies to the people, like me, who are most likely to cover it. I should not be expected to cancel flights and drop my schedule to read reports at the last second.
So, next time there is a report of such high value, it would behoove Box Turtle to give some lead time. Believe me, given the proper time to digest it, the report would have been given the attention it deserves.
We will still do what we can to highlight it. But in the future we expect to be given the courtesy of advance copies.
What is the sound of a major report dropping without a proper PR rollout?
Silence.
As far as *I’m* concerned, Kirk’s family should file a wrongful death civil suit against Rekers, and anyone affiliated with this perverted program for about 10 or 20 million.
The civil authorities should be filing murder charges against this same cabal as well!
Wayne,
I’m with you 100% on being critical of Exodus.
I have a problem with this statement you made:
“…ex-gays for what they are: Unhappy and purposely ignorant people with exceedingly shallow notions of faith and conditional friendship.”
When I think of people I’ve come to know and love like ex-gay survivors Darlene Bogle and Peterson Toscano.
There are a lot of people currently in Exodus who will not only at some point embrace themselves as LGBTQ, they will, like Darlene and Peterson, use their experiences and their lives to educate others and to confront the harms of the movement.
I don’t think statements like this help those folks want to seek out the gay community for support once they accept themselves.
Christine:
I think Mike made that statement, not me.
Although, the statement does describe people deeply involved in ex-gay ministry. They shed these labels when they leave.
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I’m a Christian therapist, and I find much of what you write inaccurate. First, there is no evidence of a “gay gene” and even if they found one, there never will be proof that biology predetermines who people are. Actually, research shows that sexual orientation is far more fluid than what dichotmous labels allow for.
Second, reparative therapists do not try to shame people for same-sex attraction, but rather help them do the opposite–to NOT feel ashamed about it. By uncovering the root sources of their same-sex attraction, they help normalize here it. Rather than demonizing people that you disagree with, it might be helpful to actually read what they right.
Who’s hating? I don’t see ex-gay ministries vilifying the LGBT community. Quite the contrary, when I read articles like this, it makes me wonder who the real haters are.
Tom,
Ex-gay ministries have been in the vanguard of speaking publicly in opposition to legislation supporting the extension of civil rights protections for GLBT people in my state for years although they’ve backed off recently. They provide the cover for politicians wanting to protect heterosexual privilege by testifying that because THEY chose not to be gay, no gay people should have rights (employment, housing, protection from hate crimes, serve in the military, marriage, etc.). They’ve been politically active for years Tom, despite their denials. Nobody would give a s**t about ex-gay ministries Tom, if they would quit standing in the way of GLBT people achieving equal treatment and protection under the law. All we are asking is that they do their little religious thing in the corner and not interfere with the rest of us gaining the privileges and opportunities that all Americans are supposed to enjoy.
On another tack Tom, do you really think biology plays no role in determining sexual orientation? The fact that homosexual behavior exists in so many very different animal species ought to strike you as a bit odd if it is as unnatural as you appear to think it is. And how can you say that “there will never be proof that biology predetermines who people are”? We have in the past 100 years developed some remarkable insights about people and the biological/ genetic underpinnings of personality. While knowledge of this sort is in its infancy, it is growing exponentially. Who is to say what we will know in another 100 years? I suspect that as a “christian” therapist, you can make the statement you made because your faith and theology would never let you accept as evidence anything that contradicted your religious community’s belief package. You might have more honestly said “even if they found one, there will never be enough proof FOR ME that biology predetermines who people are”.
Ah fundagelicalism!
You might be a therapist but not mainstream. There is a growing consensus that gender and sexuality have strong biological underpinnings. Functional MRI in particular has revealed key differences that support the view that neurological embryonic development early in pregnancy leads to natural variant outcomes (no one is claiming sexuality is wholly dichotomous, it is people like you that claim we say that. Having said that, it is also possible that sexuality is in a way quanitised – a small number of relatively discrete states of being which under environmental conditions such as those that pertain in the womb and in early life, express themselves as more or less a lumpy sexuality continuum).
There will always be those who fail to move forward.
Your ‘root sources’ are to find shameful false memories as far as I can see. To assign cause to things that are far from being likely to cause changes in sexuality such as distant father, emotional deficit and all the affective theory b******t that NARTH and Nicolosi pump out. So maybe your clients move from shame about being gay to shame about being an incomplete person with incomplete emotional relationships with men. All the while still feeling attracted to other men.
That is why I am not like Paul Douglas – even if there wasn’t a strong political component to what Exodus etc stand for and do poltically, I would still be objecting to the lies told about being gay and the harm done to young gay people unfortunate enough to be sent to you as a therapist.
there’s no “left-handed gene” either. There also isn’t a “straight gene.” There are however proven genetic components.
same with human sexuality.